caution: blast zone

Saturday, 27 December 2008, 0:00 | Category : web
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i just finished reading a blog post by a friend and one of the comments really sent my brain over the edge.

i try, quite frequently, to look at who i am, what i say & do, and figure out if it all matches up with my inner view of who i am. granted, it does become a bit of navel gazing from time to time and i’m sure it can be a bit trying for my friends and family to deal with. but in the end, i feel like it’s a positive thing.

after reading one of the comments posted on the blog, i have to truly wonder if some people ever bother to look in the proverbial mirror of life (or navel, if you will).

i’ve been working, very hard lately, about my propensity towards judging people.  sure, it’s an instinctive thing.  sure, everyone judges on some level or another.  and sure, i’m not going to be able to *stop* completely… but i can learn to recognize my judgments more quickly & set them aside when necessary to make decisions and gauge my actions.  (ok, enough navel gazing)  but when i consistently see the same person pointing at the pot & calling it black, even when they’re leaving soot marks all over the place … my head wants to explode.

my lesson for today: its not my place to point out someone else’s issue.  because seriously – its only their issue if they choose it to be, and second, it just makes me a buttinsky (which is an issue i’m already working on!).

i’m glad i had a glass of white wine tonight.  because i’m having a mellow-ish moment that is probably helping to keep the explosion inside my head.

One Comment for “caution: blast zone”

  1. 1sylrayj

    I’m finding this season to be a difficult one. My temper has been dreadfully short, and the grace which I seek has been elusive. It’s the exact kind of time when all of my advice to friends to breathe deep, do something to de-stress, identify the problems and attend to them, would be very well directed back at me. :) I’m not quite sure where to start, but I’m glad I noticed I must begin somewhere, soon. And I will, by taking a nap. :P

    I’m ok with people I trust letting me know about problems I’m exhibiting. Not everyone is ready to hear it, though, and that’s the hardest part: being the right person there at the right time.

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